Marital maladjustment : the business of preventive gynecology / by Robert L. Dickinson.

  • Dickinson, Robert Latou, 1861-1950.
Date:
[1908]
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Credit: Marital maladjustment : the business of preventive gynecology / by Robert L. Dickinson. Source: Wellcome Collection.

Provider: This material has been provided by The Royal College of Surgeons of England. The original may be consulted at The Royal College of Surgeons of England.

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    CONTAMINATION OF THE AIR. educated, are mainly two. First, he utterly lacks understanding of the possible extent of the ignorance of his new partner on sexual matters, and, second, he has the fixed delusion that some barrier must be broken through forcibly, pain and bleeding being necessary and regular. He must be taught the woman’s point of view; her difference in training, wherein, if of cultured people, there may never have been mention of the most ele- mental matters. She may be full of vague terrors, and so ignorant of her own anatomy and his that his size will greatly shock her. Perhaps her moth- er has said only enough to alarm her, in a tone of anxious apprehension, such as, “Remember to submit to whatever comes,” or, as happened in s a different class of society, one of my patients has never gotten over the initial mental attitude toward a rite about which a friend jeered, “Oh. you’re going to be murdered to-night, all right!” Thus we try to make plain to the man that first impressions and the mental attitude toward the early ap- proaches will, possibly, make or mar this relation for the rest of married life. We warn him to forestall ap- prehension. For instance, her first dread will be undressing. Let him suddenly recall an important note un- written, which will take him off to the writing room “just fifteen min- utes.” Let him be wary of exposures, and gentleness itself. (To be continued.)