Matrimony, or, Phrenology and physiology applied to the selection of congenial companions for life : including directions to the married for living affectionately and happily / by O.S. Fowler.

  • Fowler, O. S. (Orson Squire), 1809-1887.
Date:
1880
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Credit: Matrimony, or, Phrenology and physiology applied to the selection of congenial companions for life : including directions to the married for living affectionately and happily / by O.S. Fowler. Source: Wellcome Collection.

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    TUB COMBINATIONS OB' THE SOCIAL FACULTIES. ♦.specially the first love. They fasten upon mental and moral, instead of personal charms, or rather blend the two. They can fall in love only with one who combines good looks with refinement, good manners, and much delicacy of feeling j, will be soon disgusted with what is im¬ proper, not in good taste,-coarse, orvulgar in the person, dress, manners, conversation, &c., of the sex, but exceedingly pleased with the opposite qualities ; will express love in a refined, delicate, and acceptable man¬ ner ; be fond of poetry, tales, romances, and the sentimental. With Parental Love also large, they will be eminently qualified to enjoy the domestic relations of companions and parents ; be as happy in the family relations as they can be in any other, and stay from home only when compelled. When Inhabitiveness is large, they will travel half the night to be at home the other half ; sleep poorly from home : and remove only when they cannot well avoid it. With large Firmness and Conscientiousness added to this combination, they will be constant, and keep the marriage relations inviolate, regarding them as the most sacred feelings of our nature. With large Combativeness added,they will defend the object loved with much spirit, and indignantly resent scandals or indignities offered them. With large Approbativeness added, they will hear them praised with delight, and greatly enjoy their approval, but be cut to the heart by their reproaches. If moderate or small Self-esteem, and large Ideality, and only average or full Conscien¬ tiousness and Causality be added, they will be too ready to follow the fashions demanded by the othersex, and too sensitiveto their censure—- a combination too common in women. With large Secretiveness and Cautiousness, they ^riWfeel much more affection than is expressed, ap¬ pearing indifferent, especially at first, or till the other party is com¬ mitted ; and perhaps not bring matters to a direct issue till too late ; but with Secretiveness only moderate or small, they will throw wide open the portals of the heart; freely showing in every look, word, and action all the love they feel. With Firmness, Self-esteem, and Friendship all large, they will not be subdued by love, however powerful, nor be humble or servile in this matter; but bear its interruption with fortitude; and will be the reverse when Self-esteem, Firmness, and Combativeness are only moderate or average.. With Causality and the head only mode¬ rate or average in size, the vital or mental temperament predominant, and Adhesiveness, Approbativeness, and Ideality large or very large, they will prefer the company of the fashionable, dressy, gay, superficial, witty, showy, &c., of the other sex, and love to indulge in small talk with them, and love and marry those of this class. With the moral facul¬ ties predominant, they will choose the virtuous, moral, devout, and re¬ ligious for friends and companions. With the intellectual organs large or very large, they can admire and love only those who are intellec¬ tual, sensible, and literary. They will almost adore such, but be disgusted with the opposite class. With the vital or vital motive tem¬ perament predominant, Ideality larg* or very large, and Causality and Conscientiousness only average or moderate, they will be less particular as-to their moral than their personal charms ; will love the pretty face and figure last seen ; and have an attachment by no means exclusive ; courting many, rather than being satisfied with individual attachment, and inclined to the merely animal gratification of Amativeness ; and with large Language and Mirthfulness added, will delight to joke with and about the other sex ; often be indelicate, fond of hearing if not relating improper anecdotes about them, and of seeing vulgar prints, &c.; and with large Tune also added, be prone to sing objectionable songs, if not inclined to revelry and profligacy ; and extremely liable to pervert Amativeness. With large Acquisitiveness added, they will quite as soon marry for money as for true love, especially after the first attachment has been interrupted, &c. But those in whom Amativeness is only moderate or small, the men¬ tal temperament predominant, and the moral faculties more active than